ChampionsUnplanned Pregnancy and Your Relationship: A Checklist to Help You Navigate What’s Next
If you think you might be pregnant—or just found out you are—you may be facing one of the most emotional moments of your life. And if you’re in a relationship, it can make things even more complicated.
Maybe you’re wondering:
Can I count on him?
Will he support me no matter what I choose?
Is this relationship healthy enough to go through this together?
At Care Net Pregnancy Center of Houston, we meet women every day who are trying to sort through their feelings about their unplanned pregnancy, their future, and their relationship. If you’re feeling confused, anxious, or even a little numb, you are not alone—and you don’t have to figure this out by yourself.
One thing that may help is taking a few moments to reflect on your relationship honestly. That’s why we’ve created this Relationship Checklist—not to give you all the answers, but to help you ask the right questions.
Relationship Checklist: Questions to Consider
These questions are designed to help you think about your relationship in light of your current situation. Be gentle with yourself as you answer them.
- Does he listen to me?
- Can you talk to him openly about your pregnancy and how you’re feeling?
- Does he take your thoughts and feelings seriously?
- Or does he dismiss, pressure, or avoid the conversation?
- Is he supportive of my needs?
- Is he offering emotional support, practical help, or just saying “it’s your choice” and stepping back?
- Does he want to know how he can help, or is he distant or unavailable?
- Does he respect me?
- Is he treating you with kindness and consideration?
- Has he ever used guilt, threats, or manipulation—especially around this pregnancy?
- Do I feel safe in this relationship?
- Has there ever been emotional, verbal, or physical abuse?
- Do you feel like you can express yourself without fear of how he’ll react?
- Is he open to learning more with me?
- Would he be willing to come with you to a pregnancy center for information and support?
- Is he open to hearing about all your options—not just one?
What If My Relationship Feels Uncertain?
It’s okay if you don’t have all the answers yet. Many women facing unplanned pregnancies are also facing uncertainty in their relationships. Sometimes it’s a wake-up call about how strong (or fragile) the connection really is. Other times, it can be a turning point for growth and honest communication.
Either way, you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel safe, supported, and heard. No matter what he decides, you still have the right to make a decision based on what’s best for you—your health, your future, and your well-being.
You’re Not Alone—We’re Here for You
At Care Net Pregnancy Center of Houston, we offer free, confidential support to women just like you. Whether you’re unsure about your pregnancy, your relationship, or your next steps, we’re here to help.
We offer:
- Lab-quality pregnancy testing
- Ultrasound to confirm pregnancy and gestational age
- A safe, pressure-free space to talk
- Referrals to counseling, medical care, and practical assistance
You Are Strong. You Are Capable. And You Deserve to Be Fully Supported.
An unplanned pregnancy may feel like the end of one path, but it can also be the beginning of clarity, growth, and unexpected strength. You don’t have to figure everything out today. Take it one step at a time—and let us walk with you.